Um...wait a minute...what's coming is worse than Ms not from this planet bluehair? Going through her website I was like, how can such profound mental illness still be functional? How does it not crash on the shoals of its unconsciousness and drown? And are we sure we are not in that late stage, considering the sacrificing of children to the jab and gender Moloch?
My ex-wife had a lot of borderline features (which is why she's my ex). Impulsive drinking, rages, suicide threats, etc. But she wasn't very charismatic.
It ran in her family, too. One of her cousins was similar and he engaged in all kinds of petty crime, with a stint in prison, before he died of a drug overdose. I would label him as a "mild" or sub-clinical ASPD, whereas my ex is likely sub-clinical BPD. Same biological root, though.
After the divorce, I went through a string of various women who were grab-bags of various Cluster B traits. None of them lasted very long because I got pretty good at spotting disordered behavior and ejecting quickly. Thankfully I eventually found one who has a decent personality and character and we've been married about a year.
Young men absolutely need to learn about these things beforehand so they don't have to do it the hard way. Young women too - but there are a lot more resources for them to get out of abusive relationships, and those are often misused to perpetrate abuse on men.
In a better world, kids would learn about this in school.
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This is so helpful and insightful. My brother is a diagnosed schitzoid and my mother portrays many narccisist traits. My father was a classic co-dependent being raised in an alcoholic home. My grandmother (mom's mother) was institutionalized as a diagnosed borderline. I was at risk for being cluster B myself, but being the scapegoat in the family I pulled away at an early age and spent all my time with neighbors and called my healthy friends mom's "mom". In other words, I dettached from my cluster B family and formed secure attachments to healthy others.
I entered therapy in my 20s and was diagnosed with PTSD and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. By my 30's I was no longer symptomatic of either. Now in my 40's I'm in a healthy 15-year marriage to a great guy with two healthy teenage daughters. My family's inter-generational trauma stops with me, although I sacrificed all contact with my mother and brother to do it.
I have worked in tech as a UX designer for the past 20 years and have witnessed the woke takeover of my profession. I often feel gaslit in similar ways to the way I felt growing up. The type of love / hate flipping and shame projection is all there in the woke. It's scary when you've lived through it and are healthy enough despite that to recognize it.
I have to psyche myself up to read your posts sometimes and take breaks halfway through and come back later. That's how dead on you are.
The cluster-B-ification of society is getting some attention. I treat patients with BPD, so here are a few thoughts, maybe relevant or not.
1) The borderline-like phenomena we're seeing on a social level is a feature of many mass movements. While it is on clear display these days, it is not unique to this movement or our time.
2) Those borderline dynamics come less from individuals with BPD in the movement and more to do with group dynamics generally.
3) The role of childhood trauma is controversial, and a sizable minority with BPD don't have clear trauma. Where there is trauma we should be careful to distinguish assigning a causal role in the development of BPD vs genetic effects inherited from abusive, unstable parents. Personality disorders run in families and the abusive parent may have passed those genes on to the child.
4) It is essential to distinguish "state" vs "trait" when talking about personality disorders. "Trait" meaning these are features of someone's personality, and "state" meaning the person appears kind of borderline but that is due to their particular circumstances, eg. spouse just had an affair and you lost your job and you're having a nervous breakdown and doing stupid impulsive things. I see this all the time and this plays a role in the overdiagnosis of BPD.
5) I would wager a lot that, in most cases of severe, honest to god borderline, narcissistic, and antisocial personalities, they are to a large extent born that way.
6) That said, diagnosis of BPD can be difficult for all kinds of reasons. Good clinicians know to take their time with diagnosis. One reason is that people with BPD are often misdiagnosed as depressed, bipolar, chronically psychotic, and more. Their reported symptoms can vary, and their relationship to the truth can at times be tenuous. They have a tendency to glob onto particular diagnoses that are trending at the moment. Schizophrenia in the 50's and 60's, eating disorders and multiple personalities in the 80's and 90's, various gender escapades today.
7) There are many useful ways to think about personality disorders in relation to more normal mental functioning. One of the most useful, in my opinion, is focusing on what particular psychological defenses ("defense mechanisms") are being used. Some defenses are mature, like sublimation and humor. Others are more primitive, like splitting, projection, projective identification, etc. We all engage in primitive defenses from time to time (who hasn't engaged in splitting before?), but those who are severely personality disordered are often unable to make use of the more mature defenses on a consistent basis, and that gets them into big trouble.
There is a ton to say about this, maybe I'll write a piece on this from the psychiatrist perspective some time.
For those interested, I highly recommend Nancy McWilliams' book Psychoanalytic Diagnoses, which is one of the best books on personality disorders around.
The population mental health decline over the last few decades has been sstaggering. While the indoctrination and toxification are significant factors, the destruction of the family and secularism are at the heart of it. I won't associate with anyone that is not actively following a teleologic lifestyle anymore. It's just not worth it.
I skipped looking at this until now. I hope it is interesting to some people. I am sure there are those who don't even believe that personalities like this exist. They are very real.
I find a couple of your assertions quite "bold and self-defeating". Like when you say that "critical theory" and "feminism" are the product of "schizoids". (I mean, don't make it so obvious that you are catering for highly politicized American conservatives... not everyone reading this blog is American, and there's a whole universe outside of your culture). I don't now how you define critical theory, but a quick google search takes me to a wikipedia definition that goes like this: "A critical theory is any approach to social philosophy that focuses on society and culture to reveal, critique and challenge power structures". (how dare they, right?). An equally cursory google search for "feminism" takes you to: "the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes". (Again, how dare they, right??) I mean, challenging traditional power structures? You must be insane! Another thing that called my attention: not a single word about Depp's personality. No space? You should write about conservatism some day. I find that some people have a pathological need for rigid and traditional societal structures, otherwise they feel insecure and threatened, but then again, I'm not a psychologist.
You said it "I am not a clinician". I am and was trained in Dr. Colin Ross' Trauma Model. Many people have analyzed Amber Heard's behavior from media reports and a very sensationalized and highly biased trial and reports of. I contend that although there might be some facts and truth from these reports, these reports are not evidence or fact based. They have very little to do with what either Amber Heard or Johnny Depp are about. To me the reports are biased against women and in particular Ms. Heard. The Borderline Personality Disorder designation in the DSM -5 is particularly biased. It pathologizes female behavior. The psychological and psychiatric community is so heavily male in its orientation and power base and it just perpetuates myths about women's behavior and pathologizes women's voices and concerns. You have taken the mantle and run with it.
I tend to agree with Dr. Ross' opinion that most mental health diagnoses and etiologies are trauma based. I find your article on this very difficult to read because you are using the diagnosis which is biased in itself to pathologize and trash mostly women. I have unsubscribed because of this and other articles that I totally disagree with. Not at all helpful, with not a bit of compassion and extremely biased
Um...wait a minute...what's coming is worse than Ms not from this planet bluehair? Going through her website I was like, how can such profound mental illness still be functional? How does it not crash on the shoals of its unconsciousness and drown? And are we sure we are not in that late stage, considering the sacrificing of children to the jab and gender Moloch?
My ex-wife had a lot of borderline features (which is why she's my ex). Impulsive drinking, rages, suicide threats, etc. But she wasn't very charismatic.
It ran in her family, too. One of her cousins was similar and he engaged in all kinds of petty crime, with a stint in prison, before he died of a drug overdose. I would label him as a "mild" or sub-clinical ASPD, whereas my ex is likely sub-clinical BPD. Same biological root, though.
After the divorce, I went through a string of various women who were grab-bags of various Cluster B traits. None of them lasted very long because I got pretty good at spotting disordered behavior and ejecting quickly. Thankfully I eventually found one who has a decent personality and character and we've been married about a year.
Young men absolutely need to learn about these things beforehand so they don't have to do it the hard way. Young women too - but there are a lot more resources for them to get out of abusive relationships, and those are often misused to perpetrate abuse on men.
In a better world, kids would learn about this in school.
This is so helpful and insightful. My brother is a diagnosed schitzoid and my mother portrays many narccisist traits. My father was a classic co-dependent being raised in an alcoholic home. My grandmother (mom's mother) was institutionalized as a diagnosed borderline. I was at risk for being cluster B myself, but being the scapegoat in the family I pulled away at an early age and spent all my time with neighbors and called my healthy friends mom's "mom". In other words, I dettached from my cluster B family and formed secure attachments to healthy others.
I entered therapy in my 20s and was diagnosed with PTSD and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. By my 30's I was no longer symptomatic of either. Now in my 40's I'm in a healthy 15-year marriage to a great guy with two healthy teenage daughters. My family's inter-generational trauma stops with me, although I sacrificed all contact with my mother and brother to do it.
I have worked in tech as a UX designer for the past 20 years and have witnessed the woke takeover of my profession. I often feel gaslit in similar ways to the way I felt growing up. The type of love / hate flipping and shame projection is all there in the woke. It's scary when you've lived through it and are healthy enough despite that to recognize it.
I have to psyche myself up to read your posts sometimes and take breaks halfway through and come back later. That's how dead on you are.
"Level playing field"
When the psychopaths come out to center stage.
People will finally notice the leaders are frauds.
The truth is going to destroy them.
The cluster-B-ification of society is getting some attention. I treat patients with BPD, so here are a few thoughts, maybe relevant or not.
1) The borderline-like phenomena we're seeing on a social level is a feature of many mass movements. While it is on clear display these days, it is not unique to this movement or our time.
2) Those borderline dynamics come less from individuals with BPD in the movement and more to do with group dynamics generally.
3) The role of childhood trauma is controversial, and a sizable minority with BPD don't have clear trauma. Where there is trauma we should be careful to distinguish assigning a causal role in the development of BPD vs genetic effects inherited from abusive, unstable parents. Personality disorders run in families and the abusive parent may have passed those genes on to the child.
4) It is essential to distinguish "state" vs "trait" when talking about personality disorders. "Trait" meaning these are features of someone's personality, and "state" meaning the person appears kind of borderline but that is due to their particular circumstances, eg. spouse just had an affair and you lost your job and you're having a nervous breakdown and doing stupid impulsive things. I see this all the time and this plays a role in the overdiagnosis of BPD.
5) I would wager a lot that, in most cases of severe, honest to god borderline, narcissistic, and antisocial personalities, they are to a large extent born that way.
6) That said, diagnosis of BPD can be difficult for all kinds of reasons. Good clinicians know to take their time with diagnosis. One reason is that people with BPD are often misdiagnosed as depressed, bipolar, chronically psychotic, and more. Their reported symptoms can vary, and their relationship to the truth can at times be tenuous. They have a tendency to glob onto particular diagnoses that are trending at the moment. Schizophrenia in the 50's and 60's, eating disorders and multiple personalities in the 80's and 90's, various gender escapades today.
7) There are many useful ways to think about personality disorders in relation to more normal mental functioning. One of the most useful, in my opinion, is focusing on what particular psychological defenses ("defense mechanisms") are being used. Some defenses are mature, like sublimation and humor. Others are more primitive, like splitting, projection, projective identification, etc. We all engage in primitive defenses from time to time (who hasn't engaged in splitting before?), but those who are severely personality disordered are often unable to make use of the more mature defenses on a consistent basis, and that gets them into big trouble.
There is a ton to say about this, maybe I'll write a piece on this from the psychiatrist perspective some time.
For those interested, I highly recommend Nancy McWilliams' book Psychoanalytic Diagnoses, which is one of the best books on personality disorders around.
The population mental health decline over the last few decades has been sstaggering. While the indoctrination and toxification are significant factors, the destruction of the family and secularism are at the heart of it. I won't associate with anyone that is not actively following a teleologic lifestyle anymore. It's just not worth it.
I skipped looking at this until now. I hope it is interesting to some people. I am sure there are those who don't even believe that personalities like this exist. They are very real.
Two comments about the shoplifting video.
1. Unfortunately, if the police did show up they would probably come down more heavily on the store employee for assault. Because this works.
2. That's some bottomless purse. Like an infinite capacity cornucopia.
I find a couple of your assertions quite "bold and self-defeating". Like when you say that "critical theory" and "feminism" are the product of "schizoids". (I mean, don't make it so obvious that you are catering for highly politicized American conservatives... not everyone reading this blog is American, and there's a whole universe outside of your culture). I don't now how you define critical theory, but a quick google search takes me to a wikipedia definition that goes like this: "A critical theory is any approach to social philosophy that focuses on society and culture to reveal, critique and challenge power structures". (how dare they, right?). An equally cursory google search for "feminism" takes you to: "the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes". (Again, how dare they, right??) I mean, challenging traditional power structures? You must be insane! Another thing that called my attention: not a single word about Depp's personality. No space? You should write about conservatism some day. I find that some people have a pathological need for rigid and traditional societal structures, otherwise they feel insecure and threatened, but then again, I'm not a psychologist.
You said it "I am not a clinician". I am and was trained in Dr. Colin Ross' Trauma Model. Many people have analyzed Amber Heard's behavior from media reports and a very sensationalized and highly biased trial and reports of. I contend that although there might be some facts and truth from these reports, these reports are not evidence or fact based. They have very little to do with what either Amber Heard or Johnny Depp are about. To me the reports are biased against women and in particular Ms. Heard. The Borderline Personality Disorder designation in the DSM -5 is particularly biased. It pathologizes female behavior. The psychological and psychiatric community is so heavily male in its orientation and power base and it just perpetuates myths about women's behavior and pathologizes women's voices and concerns. You have taken the mantle and run with it.
I tend to agree with Dr. Ross' opinion that most mental health diagnoses and etiologies are trauma based. I find your article on this very difficult to read because you are using the diagnosis which is biased in itself to pathologize and trash mostly women. I have unsubscribed because of this and other articles that I totally disagree with. Not at all helpful, with not a bit of compassion and extremely biased