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Sep 23Edited

“A person is selected because they have the requisite vulnerability. Not everyone can be prey. They need to attend to their predator, not ignore them. A person living a fulfilled life on their own terms is more difficult to prey upon than a person seeking something the predator can pretend to fill.” (Category 2)

This is perhaps why the tactic known as GREYROCK is very good to have up your sleeve. It means to refuse to rise to the bait. Refuse to become emotional and reactive. Do not let them draw you in to their drama. Respond with utter boredom.

I have heard of cases of this tactic working in Family Courts, when the predator is trying very hard to make his prey appear to be an unreliable emotional wreck. Often through perjury and a litany of lies. The person who is prey generally has huge stakes at risk here -- such as their financial wellbeing....or even worse -- the wellbeing of their children. So they predictably fall apart, and the predator comes off as the cat who got the cream. The predators usually win in these scenarios.

As Ross Rosenberg says...."Observe, don't Absorb". That is your shield here. Do not let them press your buttons, because they are doing it to make you look bad and themselves look good. They want your emotional-wreck reaction.

Instead, be bored.

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Elsa's avatar

Excellent stuff. I'm very much appreciating these posts.

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