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Tardigrade's avatar

I can't believe how people are taking sides on this. Both sides are acting appallingly. Why must we take sides? Just because we have no useful solution to offer? Color me bewildered.

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Martin Grady's avatar

I know three highly anankastic parents: a neighbor, an in-law, and a co-worker. I would have assumed anankastic parents were unreasonably strict and controlling (and maybe some are), but in these three cases, the exact opposite is true: they refuse to see any fault in their perfect little angels.

When two kids are in a conflict, most parents will err on the side of correcting their own kids. Not so with anankastic parents: they will take it upon themselves to reprimand other people's kids, while excusing away the misbehavior of their own. They insist that their children would never lie to them, even when they obviously do. The kids will lie about other children, and even those children's parents, and the anankastic parent will accept this at face value.

In all three cases, their children seem pathologically spoiled and casually duplicitous.

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